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Cult Dynamics

Inclusive/Exclusive Group Theory:

The Paradox of Inclusion vs. Exclusion

The incongruity of people claiming inclusivity while practicing exclusion has proven a fascinating observation. This contradiction stems from psychological, social, and cultural factors influencing class behaviour. 

Understanding why so-called inclusive groups often become exclusionary can help individuals recognize manipulative patterns within faith-based communities, advocacy movements, and social institutions. Below are a few core dynamics driving this phenomenon: 

1. In-Group vs Out-Group Dynamics

  • Social Identity Theory explains how people categorize themselves and others into groups,

    leading toward favouritism of their own (in-group) while discriminating against outsiders or out-group. 

  • Even groups advocating for inclusivity can develop an in-group mentality, which can ultimately lead to exclusion of those who don’t perfectly align with said group’s identity, beliefs and/or values. 

  • Application in Religious Groups: High-control religious environments rely on in-group favouritism to create an “Us vs Them” mindset, reinforcing loyalty to their chosen faith while isolating any seen as dissenters. 

2. Tribalism & Ideological Purity

Humans have a natural tendency toward tribalism. Forming tight-knit communities based on shared beliefs, values, and ideologies provides a sense of belonging and security. That written, tribalism often leads to exclusion, for deviation from group convictions can be seen as threatening. Such may lead to: 

  • Purity Tests: Where individuals must conform to increasingly strict ideological standards to remain in the group.
  • Gatekeeping: Where existing members decide who is “Worthy” of participation/consideration in any form, including myriad positions/opportunities, not limited to personal or even romantic relationships.

Application in Religious Groups:

  • Individuals questioning doctrine may be deemed “Lukewarm” or “Heretics.”
  • Ex-members or outsiders are viewed as corrupt influences or “Apostates.”
  • Higher thresholds in purity culture breed hierarchical structures of dominance, seldom holding insiders to stringent measures imposed on outsiders. 

3. Cognitive Dissonance & Self-Justification

Cognitive dissonance occurs when a person’s actions conflict with their proclaimed values. To resolve psychological discomfort, individuals often rationalize exclusionary behaviour as necessary or justified.

Example in Faith Settings:

  • A religious leader claims to preach love and forgiveness, while shunning any who dare question authority.
  • A congregation rejects survivors of abuse rather than addressing documented issues and institutional failures. 

Faith should never require self-betrayal. Groups that justify harm under the guise of protecting their beliefs are not spiritual communities, but systems of control.

4. Moral Licensing & Perceived Superiority

Moral licensing occurs when individuals believe publicly perceived “Goodness” in one area, grants them a pass to act immorally in another. 

In religious communities, this manifests as:

  • Leaders abusing power while believing themselves divinely justified.
  • Congregations excusing cruelty, shunning, or judgment because they believe themselves chosen/superior. 

Self-righteousness does not excuse harm. Any belief system permitting abuse under illusions of moral superiority are fundamentally corrupt.

5. Power Dynamics & Gatekeeping

People in positions of power often use their influence to control membership. This is done by:

  • Creating rigid hierarchies where questioning authority leads to exclusion.
  • Gaslighting dissenters by making them doubt their own perception of reality.
  • Silencing survivors of spiritual, emotional, or sexual abuse within the group.

Application in Religious Institutions:

  • Nepotism: Protecting leaders and their inner circle at the expense of victims.
  • “You’re not praying enough” – Blaming members for their suffering instead of acknowledging institutional harm.
  • “You’re being led astray” – Using spiritual fear tactics to keep people from questioning authority.

Faith should empower, not control. Any system that demands unquestioning obedience is not about spirituality but submission/oppression. 

6. Fear of Change & Comfort in Familiarity

Inclusivity requires change, and change is uncomfortable. Many resist, finding comfort in familiar patterns and absolutism.

In religious groups, this appears as:

  • Fear of leaving due to punishment in the form of ostracism, divine wrath and ultimately, Hell. 
  • Demonization of outsiders to maintain loyalty within the group, compounding abuse. 
  • Refusal to question doctrine for fear it will destabilize one’s worldview. 

True faith embraces growth. A belief system that forbids questions instead of exploring them is one built on control, not conviction.

Breaking the Cycle of Cult-Like Behaviour

To challenge exclusivity and manipulation within religious groups, individuals and organizations must actively:

Religious faith should be a path to wisdom, not a weapon of control. If a system demands unquestioning obedience, it does not serve its people – it rules them.